Is Parenting An Art?

Although we have fathers and mothers who happen to assume the role of parents, it should be very clear today that being a father or mother is quite different from being a parent. In some societies, children are left at the mercy of providence to cater for themselves from the outset. All such children have fathers and mothers, but not parents. Hence their behavior is obvious in the contemporary society, ranging from delinquency to extrimism, especially terrorism. Fatherhood and motherhood are natural occurrences unlike parenting. Parenting is an art. Most artwork require certain skills and such skills must be acquired through serious learning. But many-a-father or mother is not apparently aware of the grave responsibility of parenting. They stop short of fatherhood and motherhood. To understand the essence of parenting, we must leverage on the statement by the creator himself to Abraham when he certified that Abraham would direct his children and household after him to follow the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just. See Genesis 18:19. This is where we get the clue that parenting is the proper way of nurturing children to become responsible and godly. God also extended his instructions on parenting to the Israelites who descended from Abraham. "Teach them all that I have commanded you while you lie down and while you get up..." (Deuteronomew 6:4-9). There are a lot of issues surrounding child upbringing that require proper information provided by more than experiences of families but also findings from research work by psychologists, marriage councellors, and well-informed Pastors and teachers, to name but a few. People should commit to preparations for marriage that transcend usual marriage and wedding ceremonies. There are a lot to learn about family life, child development, character formation, human behavior and personality traits. Then there is an added dimension of godliness. Learning all these lessons can help any parent develop necessary skills that would help them train their children in ways acceptable to the society and the creator God himself. We need more skillful parents to raise well-behaved children in contemporary society. You can be one of such artful parents today. For further reading, visit cncejiofor.blogspot.com.

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